I'm a newbie at this process. I've just recently started seeing the value in keeping my mouth shut and allowing my children to make some decisions without hearing my opinion first. And guess what? It has been a pretty successful experiment. They are making good decisions, pushing themselves, and gaining confidence.
I have to admit, I'm a talker. I love to give them advice and share my experiences. But sometimes I think all of that keeps them from the process of letting go...of letting go of me and making their own choices.
I know I won't always keep my opinions to myself, but I'm learning how to stand back and let my girls succeed or even fail. I know that with either outcome they'll become aware of how to make their own choices in life and I'll learn how to let go...one step at a time.